Facebook-banning pastor acknowledges threesome
The Associated Press reports:
A pastor who said Facebook was a "portal to infidelity" and told married church leaders to delete their accounts or resign once testified that he had a three-way sexual relationship with his wife and a male church assistant.
The Rev. Cedric Miller confirmed the information reported Saturday by the Asbury Park Press of Neptune, which cited testimony he gave in a criminal case in 2003. The relationship had ended by that time.
Miller gained national attention when he issued the Facebook edict this week. He said it came about because much of the marital counseling he has performed over the past year and a half has concerned infidelity stemming from the social-networking website.
The 48-year-old leader of Living Word Christian Fellowship Church in Neptune Township had claimed Facebook ignites old passions, and he ordered about 50 married church officials to delete their accounts with the social networking site or resign from their leadership positions.
Miller had previously asked married congregants to share their login information with their spouses — as he does — and now plans to suggest that they give up Facebook altogether. The minister also said he would leave the site this week.
In court testimony he gave in April 2003, Miller said his wife had an extramarital affair with the church assistant. Miller said he participated in many of the sexual encounters and said the assistant's wife was sometimes present, too.
Miller said the dalliances — which occurred in the Millers' home — sometimes took place during Thursday Bible study meetings and Sundays after church. But the minister said the encounters "came to a crashing halt" when several women in the church accused the assistant of having sex with them.
The testimony was given in connection with a criminal case against the assistant that was eventually dismissed. The names of the church assistant and his wife were not disclosed, and Miller told the newspaper that he was concerned that revisiting the incident would "irreparably" hurt some people.
"It has come to my attention that a very painful part of my past has resurfaced," Miller wrote in an e-mail sent Friday. Noting that his court testimony was mailed to his church leaders and other pastors several years ago, Miller said, "This was resolved at that time and accordingly we will not allow it to detract from our mission at hand to save as many marriages as we can."
Miller said people must look at his Facebook directives in the proper context.
"My life as a minister, husband, father and friend has led me to the conviction that I must do all that I can to help as many people strengthen, preserve and repair the often times fragile cords of marriage," Miller wrote.
A message left by The Associated Press for the church's pastor was not immediately returned Saturday.






Comments
The revelation of sanctimony is always sweet.
Posted by: BankStreet | November 21, 2010 7:37 AM
"We are an independent, non-denominational, Bible-believing church, embracing a charismatic style of worship." (From Living Word Christian Fellowship Church's website)
Does that sound like anyone familiar to us?
Threesomes, do as i say not as I do, hypocrites.
Posted by: Anonymous | November 21, 2010 9:43 AM
Independent, non denominational, bible believing churches are a lot less likely to have problems with homosexuality than other churches. Why? Because they are more likely to be obedient.
Posted by: Clay | November 21, 2010 8:27 PM
http://www.rockdalecitizen.com/newtonnews/headlines/Pastor_comes_out_to_church_105227769.html
Posted by: BankStreet | November 22, 2010 5:42 AM
http://www.wsbtv.com/news/25568419/detail.html
Posted by: BankStreet | November 22, 2010 1:10 PM
http://www.denverpost.com/ci_4817067
Posted by: BankStreet | November 22, 2010 1:12 PM
My guess Clay is that not many gay people join your cult for the same reason that African Americans don't join the KKK.
So threesome's are O.K. but loving couples are not. Did I get that right?
Posted by: Anonymous | November 22, 2010 1:35 PM
Clay besides the obvious that what you said lacks any basis in fact it's also rather sad that you are too blind to see how full of pride such pronouncements are as well.
Posted by: Anonymous | November 22, 2010 2:42 PM
This guy is a hot number. He probably wants all his troubled married congregants to cancel their Facebook accounts and get into bed with him so can have a Bacchanalian orgy in his own backyard. I tell you the religious are completely obsessed with all that is supposedly forbidden to them. His only sin is that he didn't film his four way encounters and turn them into potent power point presentations for his starved pastoral flock. Religion is so pitifully boring that it practically forces the constant straying of the religious into peppery unholy waters to purify themselves of their pretensions.
R Anon
Posted by: Anonymous | November 23, 2010 12:06 AM
"Religion is so pitifully boring" Why such an obsession with mocking something you claim to be boring? Like your buddy, or alter-ego Littel you seem incapable of posting anything other than ridiculing attacks. All it does is reveal how meaningless and empty a life you lead.
Posted by: Anonymous | November 29, 2010 2:14 PM
(Clay) Anonymous - You say to R Anon, "Why such an obsession with mocking something you claim to be boring? " and the answer is as plain as the zit on the end of your nose. This is a forum where the absurdities of religion can be addressed. It is public and seemingly unrestrained (gotta love that First Amendment) and you seemingly cannot shut down the dialogue. We are here because you are here and this is where we can fight you, because you can't stop it.
Posted by: Robert Littel | November 29, 2010 9:55 PM
If you are suggesting by putting (Clay) in front of your response to anonymous that it may be me, it isnt me. Thanks.
Posted by: Clay | November 30, 2010 11:21 AM
Not at all Clay. The use of your name in parenthesis in front of Anonymous is an acknowledgement that despite his being far more intelligent than you, he is just as blindly delusional as you have proven to be. There is no way that I would confuse your childlike absolutist absurdities with his more polished but still feeble defense of the indefensible
Posted by: Robert Littel | November 30, 2010 1:48 PM
Littel that doesn't explain why someone would waste so much time on something they find boring. I certainly don't want to interfere in anyone's right speak their mind or voice their opinions. I just wonder why someone would want to spend time on a subject they consider boring. Maybe you could answer the actual question instead of trying the strategy of diverting from the question in order to avoid answering. Since you responded to R Anon's question can I assume you are one in the same or simply two people living in the same delusional world where your logical views do not require logical arguements or evidence and definitions can be amended to suit your views?
Posted by: Anonymous | November 30, 2010 2:20 PM
The bible says that if you dont come to Christ as a child, you cant get there. The reason someone makes constant comments about something they find boring is because they are constantly angry. I had a friend once who complained about a middle aged lady at a store. Her said that he didnt want to be given a hard time because she "wasnt getting anything." He didnt see it as his problem to solve. You would be surprised how many people there are like that. It is called loneliness. God gives us work to do with people that helps us overcome it. Thanks.
Posted by: Clay | November 30, 2010 3:28 PM
If we (the rational segment of society) did not bother to challenge the absurd segment of society, then the absurd side will control society. Having exercised absurd control over society for so long, it is time (past time actually) for the rational side of society to supplant the absurd, especially now that the absurd side has the means to fulfill their world ending final prophesies, in a orgy of nuclear conflagration. The rational side of society has better plans for Humanity that will take us to the stars, but only if we leave our fetid gods to rot back on Earth.
Posted by: Robert Littel | November 30, 2010 5:01 PM
So Clay, did you intervene with the woman who your friend said "wasn't getting anything?"
Good man.
Posted by: Anonymous | November 30, 2010 5:39 PM
Littel the only thing absurd is you holding out your own opinions as anything more than just that. Better plans like intolerance for those who don’t view things the same as you. Maybe you mean your idea of stamping out beliefs and philosophies which don’t conform. I think that’s been tried already in nations like the Soviet Union, China, Cuba and North Korea. I won’t even bother with your ignorance of most religions actual positions on the end of the world other than to say it would take people with the same tolerance level as yours to commit such acts.
Posted by: Anonymous | November 30, 2010 6:10 PM
(Clay) Anonymous - Continuing to repeat your mantra in an effort to silence me through shear boredom of having to address it over and over, will not work. Religion is rubbish, the lowest invention of man, with absolutely NO PROOF that a god, or gods, exist, or have ever existed.
Because of it negative influence, both in the hatred it inspires between the delusional sects/sub-cults, and the inflexibility it enforces on society when innovation and flexibility are most needed in these most complicated times, religion must be gotten rid of. It serves no useful purpose outside of being a crutch for the individual and a form of control of the masses for the people who wish to wield power. It is an archaic relic that has outlived its time and you are just a blind ignorant simpleton for wanting to continue it.
Posted by: Robert Littel | November 30, 2010 9:45 PM
Nobody is trying to silence you Robert. Nobody is trying to prove the existence of God to you Robert. Your insistence on both says much about your own sense of self importance.
Posted by: Dana | December 1, 2010 12:04 PM
Dana - The fact that you cannot prove the existence of your god/gods to yourself, is the measure of the concept's vacuous nature. What you ignorant supplicants to absurdity do with it is what is of concern to the rest of us, and it seems that by your wants and desires, in service to these absurdities, is dooming Humanity to extinction. Religion is a wart on the butt of Humanity that we would be better off excising before it turns fatally cancerous.
Posted by: Robert Littel | December 1, 2010 12:20 PM
Littel all I’m doing is pointing out the fact that what you say is your opinion and nothing else and like everyone else you are free to voice it. That entire post is nothing more than your opinion based on absolutely no facts. That is why you have to use ridicule and other fallacies. You are incapable of making a dispassionate logical argument. Your need to have stamped out beliefs different from your own say quite a bit about you. In truth they reflect the very hatred and inflexibility you accuse religion of having. What it demonstrates is the reality that those things are caused not by religion, but narrow minded people including atheists.
Posted by: Anonymous | December 1, 2010 12:57 PM
Who is “the rest of us” Bobbles?
So far it is only you and R-Anon.
You're welcome to attempt to prove that God doesn't exist if it's all that important to you. But so far all you have proven is the inability to craft a logical argument. Your childish rants and adolescent name calling have yet to make any points for your case.
But go ahead, knock yourself out.
Posted by: Dana | December 1, 2010 1:15 PM
Dana all Littel is doing is trying to divert the arguement away from my orginal question and subsequent comments since he has no logical rebuttal. What's rather funny is in the case of this thread it was he who chose to respond to me first. That is unless he and R Anon are the same person.
Posted by: Anonymous | December 1, 2010 4:03 PM
Littel I see your use of ridicule and personal attacks isn't just limited to me, but anyone who points outs flaws with your rants. How exactly is serving God dooming Humanity to extinction. As usual you were long on claims and empty on actual evidence to support them. Nothing new really since in your world the rules of logic are bent to suit your own beliefs.
Posted by: Anonymous | December 1, 2010 4:07 PM
I tell you one thing. Anyone who comes off like Mr Littel does here wont be getting anything from a woman, and that includes a lot more than sex.
Posted by: Clay | December 1, 2010 4:32 PM
You're right there Clay. Robert admitted last May that all the girls in college dumped him because he was an atheist and didn't want children. Or as I on that old thread, “Robert, you must be a really “great catch” if you have to tell women the truth about yourself in order to get them to break up with you."
He's an old man now and all he can catch is fish. Maybe. He claims he's a catch and release kind of a guy. Yeah, just like his college days!
Posted by: Abbie Hoffman | December 1, 2010 6:28 PM
Clay - Don't worry your little (emphasis on little) head about my sex life. I came of age in the middle 60s, at the same time the Pill hit the scene. As a soldier in the sexual revolution and not inhibited by quaint puritanical limitations (or vengeful gods holding the hammer of eternal retribution over my head), I gained experience that my current lady is most thankful for. I suspect you wouldn't get "lucky" in a cat house, with a stack of hundred dollar bills in your hand. I, on the other hand, have outlived two wives already and hope my current love and I die together at the pinnacle of passion, some glorious night in my late and her early eighties.
Posted by: Robert Littel | December 1, 2010 9:46 PM
Well let me ask you then. Does your wife know what you post here and does she approve of it? Would she post something similiar? I would like to hear her say here that dont worry, you arent angry or unhappy about anything. Could she say that, after reading your posts? Also, the message of the free love etc of the 60's was essentially a lie from the devil. There is nothing wrong with being peaceful, but we cant go back to the garden. Adam and Eve were kicked out for being disobedient, and we have to take the bad along with the good. And remember, the tiny bit of time we spend here on earth is nothing compared to eternity in heaven or hell afterwards. God can help us with being grouchy and prepare us for what is to come. Thanks.
Posted by: Clay | December 2, 2010 2:39 PM
TMI, Mr Littel.
Posted by: BankStreet | December 2, 2010 2:52 PM
Clay - My lady is not my wife. We have reached an age where that distinction is no longer necessary for us. We are committed to each other and have taken legal steps to insure that when end of life decisions have to be made, that we will be doing that for each other, and as there is no longer a chance of having children, no pressure for us to go through the process again. She does not post on "faith" blogs and I do not post on scientific blogs (her field being physics). She does read my postings for entertainment and feels that the two of us ganging up on you would be most unfair considering your obvious handicaps, Her opinion of you is somewhat lower than my opinion of you.
As to the rest of your last rant, we both feel it is just more of your delusional rubbish.
Posted by: Robert Littel | December 2, 2010 9:26 PM
It sounds unfortunate that she feels as angry as you about what people say here. You do say she agrees with what you say. It is also unfortunate that both of you try to intellectualize that many things. That is a way of attempting to stay far away from people. God isnt impressed with intelligence. He is more impressed by what is in the heart. When you stand before Him to be judged, He will be looking for your attempts to help people who may not be able to figure things out, not attempts to ridicule them.
Posted by: Clay | December 3, 2010 7:05 PM
Clay - Bite me, you dork.
Posted by: Robert Littel | December 3, 2010 9:20 PM
I tend to agree Clay. “He will be looking for your attempts to help people.”
Of course that kind of tosses the whole “by faith alone” theory out the window.
Posted by: Dana | December 3, 2010 10:56 PM
No. He will be looking at our attempt to help people and also our faith in Him. When we have true faith, the works come. We never get to heaven on works alone. The bible does say that what we have done will be read back to us, so in that sense He will be concerned about what we have done for others. However, the faith must be there also. Without faith works are dead. Without works, we didnt really have the faith, unless someone accepts Christ on their death bed and for whatever reason didnt have time to do the works. Thanks.
Posted by: Clay | December 4, 2010 1:24 PM
The Bible says that “a person is justified by works and not by faith alone.” It doesn't say anything about people who “whatever reason didn't have time to do the works.” I think we all like the idea of a “deathbed conversion.” It satisfies something in us that longs for good outcomes to bad situations. But the likelihood that a person who has not been obedient to the ten commandments and who has not loved his neighbor will somehow change at the last moment is pretty unlikely. If he was a crummy excuse for a person in this life he'll likely be a crummy excuse for a soul in the next.
What is more likely is that God will see a man or woman whose heart is pure and whose actions have been righteous and offer him or a her a place at His table, should he be penitent.
Let's not put the cart in front of the horse Clay.
The Pope said in 2008 that “The two horizons are present in every liturgy that is celebrated and experienced in the Church which, by her nature, is opposed to any separation between worship and life, between faith and works, between prayer and charity for the brethren.”
In October in your criticism of Catholics you wrote “Why are people taught to approach God through their righteousness and good works when the bible says that we are truly saved by faith?”
Yet the Pope teaches that faith and works are both a part of our spiritual life and the bible says, not that we “are truly saved by faith,” but that faith without works is useless.
Posted by: Dana | December 4, 2010 6:25 PM
We are saved by faith with works that will of course come if we have the faith. Only God knows who to accept or not on a deathbed confession. Thanks.
Posted by: Clay | December 5, 2010 3:01 PM