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May 4, 2008

Sisterhood of hope

I attended a powerful ceremony last Tuesday night in honor of the first three graduates of My Sister's Circle, a program that pairs Baltimore girls leaving elementary school with mentors to see them through their middle and high school years. As you'll see in my story today, the graduates -- Shaniqua Warfield, Antoinella Peterkin and Rickell Sheppard Briggs -- overcame incredible obstacles to finish high school, and now they're all off to college.

For Shaniqua and Rickell, beating the odds involved getting scholarships to boarding school. And Rickell was adopted by the parents of Heather Harvison, founder and executive director of My Sister's Circle. Harvison started the program at the request of Irma Johnson, former principal of Dallas Nicholas Elementary (now the city school system's executive director of elementary schools), who was tired of seeing her female students get pregnant and drop out after they left her at the end of fifth-grade.

I went to Tuesday's ceremony after a day reporting on the uproar over the new middle/high school coming to the Canton Middle School building, a controversy that is, at its core, about some residents' belief that the behavior of a group of students will never change. So it was particularly inspiring that night to meet girls who were not dealt a fair hand in life, but turned themselves around as a result of adults believing in them.

It seemed like everyone in the audience around me was tearing up as Shaniqua, Antoinella and Rickell spoke about their journeys through childhood and adolescence. (I admit I was no exception.) Rickell, who is graduating from Garrison Forest School and will attend college at University of Baltimore, has given me permission to publish her speech (as she typed it before the event) below. The photo above shows her with Harvison as she left the podium.

I was born in my home on Guilford Avenue in Baltimore. The Paramedics came and delivered me in the house. Then, I lived with my mother, maternal grandmother, and two brothers. At some point in my infancy, I moved into my paternal grandmother’s home. I had little interaction with my father while living there. When I was three years old, I moved to New York with my Aunt Mary and Uncle “Flintstone”. What I remember most about my aunt and uncle’s house is eating popcorn and watching the Price Is Right. I merely existed. I then returned to Baltimore to began school and my name was recorded as Rickell Briggs (my father’s name) although, legally, I am Rickell Sheppard. I went to McCormick Elementary School at four years old. During that time, I was living with my paternal grandmother again. She took care of me financially as well as my two brothers and cousins. Finances were tight. I think she worked outside of the home but I do not recall what she did. I would see my birth father periodically but I had no relation or connection to him.

My mother was battling a heroin addiction and was frequently incarcerated. When my mother got out of jail, I was seven. We moved in with her and my grandmother. My mother had baby girl named Jazzmyn. I then lived with my mother and two brothers and attended my zone school, Dallas Nicholas Elementary School. When I turned nine years old, my mother finally received Section 8 housing, after being on a waiting list for two years. Jazzmyn lived with us for a few months and then her father was granted full custody. When my mother got arrested again, my aunt Maxine moved in with us. Basically, no one was providing anything. Some nights, I’d go to my grandmother’s house for dinner but usually I ate at school (Title One – free breakfast and lunch). My brothers dropped out of school and they moved with our father. It was just me and mother living without any gas and electric. After school, I would stay outside. I only went home to sleep. Soon, we found an eviction notice on our door.

I did not realize it then but my life was about to change in a way I never imagined. When I was in fifth grade at DN Mrs. Johnson sent me home one day. It may come as a surprise to you that I was a little scrappy and got into trouble sometimes. So there I was when I heard Mrs. Johnson calling Rickell, why aren’t you in school? “Because you sent me home!” I will never forget what she said: “Well, I changed my mind. Come down here.” Mrs. Johnson took me back to school because she had chosen me for a brand new pilot program called My Sisters Circle. Soon I started after school meetings and trips. I also soon became a part of Heather’s life. By the following summer I became her sister. Her mom is my mom and her dad is my dad and all because Mrs. Johnson changed her mind!

Here are some of the things that have meant the most to me with MSC:
 Book discussions in 5th grade.
 Sleepovers with mentors like Michelle and Lara.
 My 4 summers at Echo Hill Camp. I developed leadership skills and toned arms from kayaking everyday.
 Girl Talk Series, where all the girls get together and discuss issues that we face.
 NYU trip when I realized that I was definitely going to college and certainly in a city.

From Guilford Avenue to Sandee Road really isn’t that many miles, but, in some ways it is far away. I have learned a lot, and I know that others have learned a lot from me. There are so many people here tonight that have cared about me, prayed for me and encouraged me. My “sisters.” Mrs. Johnson. My church family at the Gathering. The staff at Echo Hill. The staff at Garrison. All of my friends. My family. And, always, Heather.

I think the best way to sum it up is to tell you one more story. I did not attend my fifth grade graduation because I did not have a dress. I cried a lot about that. Well, on June 11th when I graduate from Garrison Forest I KNOW I will have a beautiful dress. I know because I already tried it on. It is home in my closet in my bedroom in my house. It is a perfect fit.

Posted by Sara Neufeld at 6:02 AM | | Comments (8)
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And that my friends (from all parts of the city, clean and not so clean) is the power of good schools.

Sara, as you mentioned, this story is the perfect juxtaposition to the Canton issue. I hope many will take a lesson from it.

Thanks.

Thanks so much for sharing, Sara. What a great report. If the young ladies are reading the blog, keep up the great work!

What a wonderful story. What a wonderful program. I hope the people in Canton who oppose the new school will read it and begin to think differently about it.

It is great. Notice, she had to be taken away from a bad situation at home to help her. Many of these students have good support in school. It is when they have to go back and survive in the neighborhood that the problems seem insurmountable.

I will continue to say, it is rarely the teacher. It is sometimes administration. It is almost always the parents who are at the center of why so many of our children are failing, in school and in life. There are great students, even in failing schools.

IMPORTANT NOTE: They went to BOARDING SCHOOLS and did not stay in a BCPSS school...

When I first started reading Rickell's story, I thought it sounded familiar.

Then I remembered Ms. Johnson telling this story to the principals in Area I back in August, and in much the same way. She used it to put a lot of emphasis on the need for them to be more involved in their students' lives. I also remember the effect that it had on them.

With any luck, as her reach expands to cover all of the Elementary and K-8 principals, perhaps more principals will be inspired by this tale.

Maureen, that they went to boarding schools wasn't the point of the story, but thanks for participating anyway.

I agree Claude. The more important point Maureen was probably not about Baltimore City education per se. If it were, they could have lived at home and attended a private school. Boarding school/adoption removed them from THE HOME not only THE SCHOOL. As I have said and will say again. Most students lack of success comes from the lack of value education holds in their homes. There are very successful students, even in poor performing schools.

The accomplishments of Ms. Harvison and the young women in her program are truly commendable. However, without meaning to subtract in any way from them, I have to say that I believe comparison with the Canton situation is invidious.

In my view, what these stories show is that with sufficient love, dedication, perserverance, and resources, miracles can happen. I don't think the majority of Canton residents would disagree. But individuals like Ms. Harvison are unfortunately rare, and there are not nearly enough resources in the Baltimore school system to provide these experiences for every child, however richly they might deserve them.

Dr. Alonso is right: it is an issue of social justice. But it is an issue of social justice much deeper and broader than the residents of Canton. To address the historical injustice, as a nation we should really be mounting a Marshall Plan for African American children, instead of squandering untold billions in Iraq. The citizens of Canton are working hard, paying taxes, and raising their own children. So, if they are voting Democratic as well, they are already doing their part.

Well, maybe they could do a little bit more. We could all do a little bit more. But at the end of the day, when my kids are finally in bed, I am tired and about the best I can do is write another check for Barack.

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