The draw of drama
There's one blog I read, Dating Really Blows, that I check out simply because of the drama. It frustrates me at times, because this man has gone from breakup to back together to moving in to moving out to breakup and reconciliation to back to breakup again. All with one woman. When do you say enough is enough? Nonetheless, I keep coming back to see what happened next.
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that we've all been there at least once in real-life: That one relationship that's full of some kind of drama -- two friends in competition for the same guy or girl; the on again-off again relationship; the unfaithful relationship. And even though we know it's bad, it's hard to say enough is enough. But why?
A few months ago, the folks at Baggage Reclaim did a series on Drama Reduction, how to get it out of your life. However, the first post focused on the Why of drama. According to NML, it's about the attention and the adrenaline:
Drama works for you. You could say you love Relationship Crack - getting high on the bad stuff and driving yourself crazy…and then going back for more, because even though you know it’s no good for you, you felt more comfortable, loved, showered with attention, and in control of things, when you were on your high.
It's a little much, I know, but there is something about being in tumultuous relationship that is like a drug. Something about being in perpetual relationship uncertainty gets the blood pumping. But just like any adrenaline rush, there's got to be a letdown. Some people eventually tire of it, some don't.
What do you think? What is it about drama-filled relationships that makes it hard to say, "no thank you"?
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Comments
Unfortunately, I have been in one of these on-off relationships for the past year. It has mostly been good but there has been lots of unnecessary drama. It's frustrating that I can't walk away from it. I think I just care too much about the girl I'm seeing to reject her when she works her way back into my life after a brief breakup.
Posted by: Larry | July 17, 2008 12:31 PM
I was involved in a High-Drama relationship for about a year, although it felt like 10 years. Still does, when I think about it. When the drama was not in play, he was a lovely man but he needed to be the exact center of my every thought and all of the maneuvers were aimed at keeping me offguard and focused on him. Seems to me that his 3 marriages all had that in common, too.
Posted by: Eve | July 17, 2008 2:16 PM
Chris Rock:
"A bad relationship is exciting...you never know when you might have to call the cops."
Posted by: Amadeo | July 18, 2008 10:04 AM
DRAMA GETS OLD! And for some reason, I have found a lot of times, people thrive on it. I don't/won't stand it long before I push someone away or vice versa.
By the way, LOVE the new look of your blog. Very inviting and fun.
Posted by: Jenice | August 20, 2008 6:28 PM