Hidden pleasures
Would you eat at a restaurant alone? During one of my dating dry spells, I determined that I would do all the typically single-averse activities -- going to the movies, going out to eat, etc., by myself. If I could do these things by myself, I thought, I'd prove that I was a healthy, well-adjusted single person.The premise was a little forced, but it worked out well. There were no looks of pity from servers and other diners as I sat at my table for one. And in the movie theater, it was extra nice. I could eat popcorn to my delight and I see the crappy or super-indie movies nobody wanted to see with me. It was a hidden delight.
Which brings us to this week's Friday Five. What are the hidden delights about being single?
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Comments
You don't have get dressed for hours if you don't want to.
There is no one forcing you to eat or commenting on how much you ate.
You can read all kinds of trashy books and watch hokey movies without explaining why.
Best of all, you can buy outragiously priced clothes without the every present raised eyebrow.
Posted by: Kitkat | July 21, 2008 2:22 PM
1. You can do whatever you want without asking permission.
2. You can do whatever you want without asking permission again.
3. You meet infinitely more people because you are more social when single.
4. You don't have to spend extravagantly on an SO's birthday or at Christmas, or on any holiday where Hallmark says you have to buy chocolates, flowers, dinner, etc.
5. You don't get yelled at for having one or even six pints too many.
Posted by: RJ | July 21, 2008 3:52 PM
Two words: Disposable income.
Posted by: JTK | July 21, 2008 4:06 PM
I love not having to worry about holidays nearly as much; valentines day, anniversaries, birthdays, etc.. I can celebrate or not to my hearts content.
Posted by: Zebra | July 21, 2008 5:12 PM
Sleeping alone! Oh, glorious sleep.
Posted by: Mary | July 21, 2008 5:35 PM
I'm not single now, but dining alone is a pleasure I used to--and still!--enjoy. There's something so gutsy about going to a restaurant alone...it's a bit freeing. I have yet to try the movies alone, though.
Posted by: R | July 22, 2008 9:08 AM
Actually, I do most of this stuff even with a boyfriend.
I will agree with Mary on the sleeping alone part, though -- I think I could be very content with going 1950s style and having separate beds in the same room.
Posted by: linz | July 22, 2008 11:00 AM
Doing what you want when you want without inviting, asking or informing anyone else.
I still like going to the movies alone. I hate people which is why I won't see The Dark Knight for at least another week.
Posted by: Amadeo | July 22, 2008 11:17 AM
Separate beds! YES!
Posted by: JTK | July 22, 2008 12:01 PM
Donning my PJs at 4:30 in the afternoon, then eating fast food in bed while holding MY remote control and watching the dumbest things that I can find on TV. Sweet, sweet "Rock of Love", I miss you.
Posted by: Catherinette Singleton | July 22, 2008 3:20 PM
Not having to validate anyone.
No extra smells or lack of hygeine issues.
Peace AND quiet...
Making your own decisions and opinions without having to worry about someone else's feelings about it.
Not having to worry about that "Oh, did that make him made" reflex.
Posted by: Jenice | July 24, 2008 11:37 AM