Job snobbery
Yesterday, Baltimore-based blogger The Diva's Thoughts wrote a post about a friend who was totally head over heels about a guy until ... she just wasn't anymore. What was the girl's reason for dropping him?He was a manager at Walgreen's.
The Diva's Thoughts wasn't having it.
When she was explaining her side of things to me I just looked at her with a blank stare. Then I asked her, "Don't you work at Boscov's?"
She replied, "Yeah. Boscov's is cool. It's way higher on the food chain then some Walgreens"
I just blankly looked at her. I mean really...You work retail...he work retail. Are you kidding me with this? At least he's a manager of a department. Your [butt] is following people around asking them if they need help and picking up their unwanted clothes from a fitting room. Why do you think you are better then he is? Please!
Give the guy a break.
Amen sister. The Diva's Thoughts attributes her friend's behavior to thinking she's better than him, but I think it's slightly different -- she doesn't think he's better than her. It's a common problem, at least if you take the word of some of the relationship experts.
Women are wont to complain that there are no good men out there, but being the more selective gender, we often outselect men because they don't fit minimum criteria. He needs to be a college graduate. He needs to have this kind of job.
This came up when I talked to LaDawn Black (host of Love Zone on 92Q and author of Stripped Bare) last year about the state of dating in Baltimore. And as she said, just because they're a garbage man -- or a manager at Boscov's -- it doesn't mean that they're not an interesting person. That they can't hold their own financially. And that they don't have goals.
So, I'm curious -- has anyone else dealt with job snobbery, reformed from it or strongly believe in it?
Women are wont to complain that there are no good men out there, but being the more selective gender, we often outselect men because they don't fit minimum criteria. He needs to be a college graduate. He needs to have this kind of job.
This came up when I talked to LaDawn Black (host of Love Zone on 92Q and author of Stripped Bare) last year about the state of dating in Baltimore. And as she said, just because they're a garbage man -- or a manager at Boscov's -- it doesn't mean that they're not an interesting person. That they can't hold their own financially. And that they don't have goals.
So, I'm curious -- has anyone else dealt with job snobbery, reformed from it or strongly believe in it?
Comments
Give the guy a break?!! Hell, GIVE him MY phone number!!!! Garbage man, pooper-scooper, ice cream scooper - as long as you do it well and have a passion for it, I don't really care what you do for a living as long as you're employed. I've dated guys with degrees whose emails consisted of, "Hi sexy!" and I've dated guys who say, all day long, "Would you like fries with that?" and believe me, I'll take Fry Boy any day!!! Stupid, vapid, shallow women!!!
Posted by: Tia | June 11, 2008 10:28 AM
The last significant BF I had I thought was too smart for his job. Is that's job snobbery, if so, I'm guilty. He was smart - in many ways (book smart, resourceful, had common sense, etc) and had had more "challenging" jobs before the current one. It seemed like a waste for him to be cleaning out houses for a living. I never said anything to him about it, I just secretly wished he'd look for something else.
Posted by: Suzie Q | June 11, 2008 1:03 PM
Hey I make over 50K a year and get a lot of stress and grief with the job, the other day I was thinking about going into house cleaning. You make $20 to $30 an hour if you work for yourself, and it's considered areobic exercise. In my present job I sit on my butt most of the day, pay a chiropractor and a masseusse and a gym for simple body correction and maintenance.
Think about it.
Posted by: Akiko | July 25, 2008 9:52 AM