I stumbled upon a blog where the author, Marne, does her own relationshippal time warp. (It seems I've been doing a lot of stumbling lately, I know -- What of it?) After finding a journal written by one of her ex-girlfriends, she talks about how they met, how they got together, and how she cannot remember much else about her romance with her first girlfriend.

It's quite a long post, but as she works through her past and into the present, you can kinda see a bit of value in the whole revisiting-the-ex thing, whether it's face-to-face or just in your memories: Ideally, you learn a little more about yourself and yourself in relationships, but as Marne notes, sometimes you just learn that you still have no clue at all:

I am befuddled (yes, befuddled) by the fact that I can’t come up with any other reasons why other people seek out and stay in relationships, because I can’t imagine any other reason working for a very long time (a brief list of the other reasons I have been in other relationships, all of which have been significantly shorter: you’re hot. you make me feel smarter. you need to get laid. i need to get laid. you laugh at my jokes. people think we’d be good together.  why not?). The only other reason I can come up with is being scared of being alone and dying alone, but once you get past the whole one day I’m turning into grass thing, all you’re left with is that feeling of wishing someone else was watching out for you.  How do people make monogamy work and still feel like an individual in the long term?

Your thoughts?

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