Are outgoing girls out?
I'm cribbing off of iVillage today because the answers surprised me, and, well, I wanted to check back on their work.In the Love section, they asked two guys, one described as "A Career Man," and another described as "Life of the Party," whether men prefer shy and reserved women or outgoing women.
Though Life of the Party hemmed and hawed, he basically said that men prefer shy girls. Men like the challenge, they both said.
Is this true? Sure, personality and looks count, too, but given two identical women, apart from their introversion/extroversion, does the introverted woman get the guy?
Comments
I am quite surprised that guys prefer shy girls! I would have guessed the exact opposite!!! I'd prefer an outgoing guy over a shy guy!
Posted by: Susan K | May 5, 2008 12:52 PM
My mother - a true Southern Belle - always claimed that men always chase after women who are hard to get. Since that's an old phrase, I wonder if that's not what Mr. Hem 'n Haw was trying to describe.
Posted by: Eve | May 5, 2008 4:28 PM
Men chase after the woman that are shy or hard to get. Men Sleep with women that are outgoing.
Posted by: L Boogie 1709 | May 5, 2008 8:21 PM
It's going to be one of those things where there's a lot of personal variation, but speaking for myself, if that were truly the only factor that was different, I'd pick the outgoing girl.
I much prefer people who are honest about how they are, whether that means introvert or extrovert, and there needs to be some willingness to meet in the middle and adapt. The difference between "extrovert" and "arrogant loudmouth showoff" does seem to escape some folks, no matter if they're male or female.
Eve -- there are a great many guys out there who don't bother chasing after the "hard to get" ones. There are always some guys who will get into that kind of thing, and there are enough of them that the belles will never lack for suitors, but it's certainly not true that all of us will be putting on our running shoes to go after them.
Posted by: Michael N. | May 6, 2008 7:28 AM
Damn it. I'm totally screwed (and not in a good way) if this is true.
Posted by: Catherinette Singleton | May 6, 2008 8:18 AM
I don't agree, I prefer outgoing women. That's not to say I won't pursue a shy girl if I'm really interested, but sometimes you can't even get to know them well enough to know if it's worthwhile to chase anyway. Men like to chase, but they also like to capture the girl at some point and if she is too shy or plays games for long, I move on.
Posted by: CD | May 6, 2008 9:39 AM