Meet Me Monday: Casey Adams
Casey, a California native, has been single for more than five years, but he likes it that way. He prefers instead to focus his intuitive, tenacious and stubborn qualities on his love: food.
"When I watch the baking programs, I kind of like the arts, the decorations and stuff like that," he says. "And it's incredible the way they can put things together in such a way that is so out of the ordinary. I definitely want to study to learn to do that."
Name, age, status:
Casey Adams, 35, single.
Where he calls home:
"I moved to Columbia maybe six months ago, but I actually lived in Baltimore, in Reservoir Hill for a year," he says.
If he had to choose between the 'burbs and B-more, the choice is easy: "I prefer Baltimore."
How he makes a living:
He waits tables at Bob Evans and he's working online toward his bachelor's degree, in business administration with a concentration in human resources, from South University in Savannah, Ga.
He's says he is starting at Baltimore International College in January -- he's getting his certification in culinary arts.
"I'm not sure exactly what I want to do with it yet," he says. "But I know I'm interested in food. And I know I'm interested in culinary. And I know I'm interested in hospitality. So I'm trying to figure out how I'm gonna get from food to writing ... just trying to meld everything together."
Favorite neighborhood:
Downtown.
He says his favorite spots are the Harbor and the Basilica.
On dating:
Casey says he has tried everything when it comes to dating and has figured out none of it is really for him.
"I actually tried having same-sex relationships when I lived in San Francisco, and they kinda didn't work," he says, "and I had a girlfriend when I lived in California, that worked, but we broke up. So now I'm actually trying something different. It's more or less like, keeping to myself and not having anything serious.
"I just suspect and think that relationships are ... something I'm not searching for.
Friendships is better, hands-down, he says.
"I think friends are more important than actually having something, you know having a relationship. I don't know if my parents ever wonder, worry about me being by myself, but I enjoy being by myself. And I think that's something I've learned.
"There's a lot that goes into a relationship. You know, possibly having children, or being in a good relationship, there's a lot of issues there that I'm really not one to deal with it.
"So being by yourself and sort of looking at it from the outside ... is better for me.
His ideal mate:
"I guess that it would be someone that I connect with. Everyone says that it would be more, 'Oh I want someone I can connect with on an emotional level,' but I think it's just someone you connect with, that you know it's instantaneous, you know what I mean? It's nothing you have to discuss and is just there, and if it develops into a relationship that is worthy of pursuing, you pursue it."
Does he believe in love at first sight?
"The possibility, yes."
Deal-breakers:
Smokers and bad breath are no-nos, he said. And also, Pigpens need not apply.
"I mean, I'm messy ... but I'm clean though. I mean, I'm messy but that's because I'm busy or I think I have other things. But there are people who are just messy. There's nothing about them that would be clean. You can just tell something's not right about them."
Best thing about being single:
"Sometimes you don't really have to explain yourself. When you do things by yourself, you don't really have to answer to anybody else and you can have things the way you want to inside and outside of your home."
Worst thing about being single:
"I guess sex, when you think about it, if you really want to have sex with anyone ever again, which I have not," he says, laughing.
"I'd rather just be by myself and not worry about having to (sighs) have sex at the end of the day."
If he could date anyone in history:
"If I could split myself in two!"
"I think I'm my own best friend."
