Check yes or no
This week's topic may seem a little elementary for some of you, but I figured it'd be nice to go back to the basics during the rush of the holiday season. (Anyone else not feeling in the spirit yet?)
Long gone are the days of grade school, when you could pass a note or find out through a friend. But that still doesn't mean that connecting with people gets easier when you're older.
So, before the first date, before the kiss, the booty, all of it -- How do you know if someone is interested in you? What are the signs? What are the best ways to do love interest reconnaissance? And what are the best ways to avoid confusing friendly interest for romantic interest?
Comments
I would love to see some ideas about this one, I don't want to make a fool of myself and there are definitely times when I wonder if X is just that girl who is really nice to everyone or ??
Posted by: Matthew L. | December 10, 2007 11:40 AM
I float the "I want to be on you" comment. If it plays, then we are in business.
Posted by: JTK | December 10, 2007 12:05 PM
JTK --
I wanna say something. I'm gonna put it out there; if you like it, you can take it, if you don't, send it right back.
Posted by: Sam Sessa | December 10, 2007 12:11 PM
I am one for just coming out and being open and asking a person. But you should ask my boyfriend about this one! We had this awesomely sweet friendship/courtship period and so when he asked me on an actual "date" I wasn't sure if it was a "date" or not. I later learned that he didn't either...at least not until the actual date! :) There's a lot to be said for working on building a friendship first, and not pushing things to move forward to quickly. Because then it's much easier to just talk about feelings openly.
However, months after the "is-it-a-date", I did write him a note similar to one pictured above. It said, "Do you want to be my boyfriend?" And it had boxes for yes no and maybe. Immature? Maybe. But I got the answer and he still has the note :)
Posted by: aeb | December 10, 2007 12:12 PM
Wait. Are we not supposed to be passing those notes? Because that's what I do. . .No wonder its' not working.
Posted by: Catherinette Singleton | December 10, 2007 1:16 PM
Sam -
Get back to your own blog! We need you. Hell, I need you. I'm a mess without you. I miss you so damn much. I miss being with you, I miss being near you. I miss your laugh. I miss your scent; I miss your musk. When this all gets sorted out, I think you and me should get an apartment together.
Posted by: JTK | December 10, 2007 4:06 PM
hey boys -- get a room.
And Catherinette -- Look at aeb's comment: It seems that "Do You Like Me?" notes are the new black.
Posted by: Maryann | December 10, 2007 4:11 PM