I often disagree with Moxie of Sex and Moxie, but last week, she was on point. A reader detailed a relationship gone wrong. "I just want to get some closure regarding what had happened," she wrote.

Moxie's response?

The [crappy] thing about dating, I've learned, is that sometimes you just don't get that much sought after closure that you'd like. You have to understand...nobody likes to deal with confrontation. Nobody likes to have those uncomfortable conversations. And many, many people are just not invested enough in other people's happiness or well-being to care enough to provide that closure. So you have to give it to yourself. You do that by assessing the situation, seeing where you went wrong, acknolwedging it and moving on.

To which I say, right on. I have a friend who was somewhat recently dumped. In the immediate aftermath, she would often say wanted to call the ex, that she wanted to get closure on the relationship. "No!" I would say. "Calling him will do you no good. And you will never get the closure you think you could get."

As a chronic breaker-upper, I have been on the receiving end of demands for closure. And even as the person who has ended it, I've also had to tamp down the urge to call and demand my own closure to a relationship ("Yes, I CLOSED it, but i didn't get CLOSURE," I'd whine). But in my experience, most of the time, closure is a myth, a fantasy. You will never, no matter what, get an answer that is satisfactory, because matters of the heart do not lie in the realm of logic.

In the matter of my friend, she eventually called her ex anyway, and said she did get some bit of closure. I'm skeptical, but stranger things have happened.

Do you think closure is possible?