Sugar and spice and everything nice?
Here's Betsy of Fluffy Windover's Diary with this week's Toddler Thursday:
Much has been written on the topic of children and gender. (In fact, Liz Atwood discussed it in this post.) I don’t want to get into the debate of whether parents sometimes reinforce gender stereotypes from the start. (I’m sort of middle-of-the-road on that issue. I let Edwin play with whatever toys he wants to play with, be it dolls or trucks, but I’m not painting his toenails pink or anything. Then again, he has never asked me to.) But I do want to talk about the natural behavioral differences between girls and boys.
Edwin has become really physical. He wants to run, jump, climb, throw, and smash. If there is a ball, he must throw it. If there is a large stick, he must wield it. If there is furniture, he must climb it (and then try to jump off). In fact, right now he is sporting an impressive shiner from jumping off our front porch steps. Whenever I mention this to someone, the response is almost always, “Well, he’s a boy!” He does enjoy some quiet activities, like painting and being read to. But for the most part, he would rather be running, climbing, or throwing.
So, you parents of toddler girls: Is it true what I’ve heard? Is it true that little girls actually SIT DOWN? Do they really read to their dolls and have tea parties? Because if that’s really what toddler girls are like, maybe I should start painting Edwin’s toenails pink.









Comments
I think that Heather Armstrong of Dooce is doing a pretty good job of blowing this myth out of the water right now. She has two girls and although the first was a more typical "girl" the way that you're talking about her second is "all boy" as they say (or would if she was a boy).
Posted by: Kate | July 14, 2011 8:33 AM
Yes, all kids are different but especially boys and girls! One time we had a teddy bear tea party at preschool. All the girls were sitting and sipping tea with their teddy bears, while the boys were throwing their bears and would not sit down for anything - they totally didn't get it. Boys are so fun, though - let them play football with the teddy bear if they want!
Posted by: Wendy | July 14, 2011 12:49 PM