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May 10, 2010

The lacrosse killing and campus safety

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The tragic death of UVA lacrosse player and Cockeysville native Yeardley Love has also raised many questions about the safety of students on campus. Our reporters Scott Calvert and Tricia Bishop explored the issue in this story yesterday.

The piece looked at what campuses do and don't do to keep up to date on their students' scrapes with the law, and included quotes from an organization called Security on Campus, Inc.

The story left me wondering what parents could tell their kids about how to stay safe, especially when they might be living on campuses miles away. The organization's website had these tips for our Monday Consult:

--Know your surroundings and trust your instincts.
--Keep phone numbers of campus safety in your cell for emergencies.
--Lock your door. Do not loan your key to friends.
--Do not accept drinks (alcoholic or otherwise) from others. Remember that alcohol is the #1 date-rape drug.
--When you go out, let someone know where you're going and when you plan to be back.
--Do not prop doors.
--Use caution when posting personal information on Facebook, MySpace, and other social networking sites.

For more information, go to the organization's website.

One more angle on this is the role alcohol may have played in the events leading up to Love's death. Read editorial writer Peter Jensen's perspective here, and discuss with your college students.

Posted by Kate Shatzkin at 6:51 AM | | Comments (2)
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Most of this advice would not have saved Yeardley Love. Her apartment was off campus. She broke up with her boyfriend because she didn't want to be around someone abusive. She locked her door.

He broke it down and killed it her. It does not seem that she had even enough time to dial 9-1-1

Perhaps if Mr. Hughely had attacked a stranger in his sleep - he would have been arrested. Or if he had attacked a strange girl at a bar - he would have been arrested.

But he attacked a teammate in his sleep - so the teammate felt the value of the team's chemistry were more important than dialing 9-1-1.

And he attacked Yeardley instead of a stranger in a bar weeks before the killing. And she probably didn't want to get him into "trouble" and had feelings for him. Just speculating here, but that is common for a young woman who still has feelings for a man.

The purge, of an insatiable consumption of the evil and savagery, is a malignancy which dulls the extrasensory, overcharging one's emotions, purpose of which knows
no inscrutable measure.

Fractured throughout life, society needs to restructure future generations
to come
There is a huge amount of work to be done on behalf of every kind of person.
Without a line of race, cultures, gender, or tax bracket we could counteract forces of injustice

in how the news programs continue to NULLIFY.

OUR fallen victim's to drunk drivers, child murderers, husbands who heartlessly with malice in their hearts murder wives, girlfriends, or strangers
The word malice * A desire to harm others or to see others sufffer; spite

Witnessing blood on the freeways, alters on the streets, etc.

Business as usual, except for the bereft, when the coroners wrap the sanctity of the soul
of a loved and cherished boy or girl, man or woman with a monumental life history,
in a stealth white sheet or black plastic bag...again and again and again

How do we stop this from happening? We create a two letter and correponding number , a phone number
with only two digets – a system for the perpetrator as well known to all as CD. This is on behalf of
Yeardley perhaps the letters would be YA – meaning YA STOP - YA is 92 when a crime is on the cusp
of being committed it will give the person with the upper hand the tool they need to stop the crime -
it can mean to let the person go and to all ow the crime to stop. When the victim says no they seem to
respond even more aggressively so by puting this ya yes it is ok to stop and let the victim go before
they go to the next step – and by allowing the sentencing to make sure they account for that .

Replace the complicated with the ideal, erase some of the memories with new meanings, the correct ones, ask why
and find out what is lost or has been hidden, chisel away at the cycle that hold the realm inside of the almighty
rules and ask the questions, before you are the answers there for the taking.”

I would use the word compass and framework and inform the reader of the entitlement granted to each and all. Inspiring us to have the capability to allow in natural meditation will infuse an awakening imperative to guidance. Perhaps adding a calmness to our ever demanding impulse. When enlightenment enters a re radiation, requisiteness to a ' happening'
each and every time impelling the power of the brain. Constant and pulsating in sync, building
to the urge to quantify harmoniously intuitive feeling, creating these spheres of influence.

Creating goals from those who have expired – respire their thoughts, and honor their words will have gravity, along with warnings... permeate within the social conscious, we can embody and become non-resistant to the to the superficial world predominating us today. Inspiration is there for us daily, there were times when I could not stop crying sometimes even breaking down in hysteria- by knowing of the precious gems and all that go into the making of us, by seeing what
can be preventable, only to see what is not.

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About Hanah Cho
Hanah Cho joined The Baltimore Sun in 2003, just a few years out of college. While covering everything from education to workplace issues to financial services, she also got married and became a first-time mom in December 2009. Now, she’s trying to juggle work and life demands without losing her sanity.

She lives in Columbia with her husband and infant son.

Kate Shatzkin authored Charm City Moms until June 18, 2010.
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