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September 23, 2009

Mackenzie and John Phillips

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What can I say? Eeeeeuuuuwww.

My Read Street colleague, Dave Rosenthal, points out that the news that Mackenzie Phillips (formerly of "One Day at a Time") now says she had a 10-year affair with her father, John Phillips of the Mamas and the Papas, is also appropriate fodder for our parenting blog.

I suppose it is, though what we apparently have here is not parenting at all, but its darkest opposite.

I guess the interesting thing for us is that in telling the story, Mackenzie Phillips tells the world not to "hate" her father, who died years ago.


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Posted by Kate Shatzkin at 12:25 PM | | Comments (9)
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Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww........

And why do we need to know this? Oh, right, she's making money off of it.

Well, you have Mackenzie's word against...well, nothing at all. Who should we believe, Mackenzie? Or someone who is not around to even protect his name?

R - we suppose to believe this crap?? This girl has spent most of her life High! Wants more money for her habit.. She needs to put down her lighter and step away from that krack pipe!!.. Think about it?

Dear Mackenzie,
I want you to know that I am with you 100%.
I had an Alcoholic father. I know what it's like to spend your life keeping secrets. I have been in the process of writing about my experience. I know the world doesn't care, but there is a need to put it down on paper. I'd love to talk to you one on one.
What you had to endure is unspeakable. My prayers are with you. YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON! You are a victim of this disease, as I was.
I pray you can find some peace in your life.
Love,
Cathie

Macenzie hold your head up high. how could you not have all the emotional feelings that you have. one side your father was a father, then he passed the stop signs. children always trust thier parents first before anything. thats ok. your father picked you because your personality was someone he could manipulate. and that you would feel like it was your fault.you carried something too long by yourself when you did nothing wrong. now take your backpack full of bad experiences that were not your fault and take it from the front of you & place the back pack on your back . there the wieght is not so heavy little by little go forward drop some of tis wieght from your backpack in the gutter. move forward with your head up high. ignorant people are always going to have negative responces. your step mother noticed things but one day will take the shades off and know you are telling the truth. you can only go forward, you are not only a survivor but will give strenghth to many people in the future

No person in their right mind would come out with a story like this just to make money!
She was a child star with famous parents. Does that make her unbelievable?
Guess again. Sure there are two sides to every story. Then there's the truth. The public may never know the truth, but do not devalue the claim!

This I don't understand: how can you call the relationship consensual, and at the same time consider yourself to be a victim?

Mackenzie! Your story, my story, and all the others to afraid to speak. Thank you. What I believe is : I am here today, stronger than ever -due to the incest of my father. I spent everyday of my life searching for something to fill a void, a hole in my soul. I blocked out the incest, I idolized my father, I had no soul. The disconnection was killing me. I've done therapy, 12-step, EMDR, AND then started reading about incest and covert abuse, and narcissists. My father fit these profiles and I fit the "profile of what happens to the victim". This part was life changing for me. I was not crazy anymore. I had been groomed, my father used and abused his position, my vulnerability, his needs, my love. He overstep boundaries, and took my childhood. He almost took my soul. HOWEVER I don't hate him. I was chosen-perhaps by him- to finish the work he couldn't * TO STOP THE CYCLE OF ABUSE *. This is how I found my soul. He didn't take it. I am alive.
Mackenzie, thank you again. I related to your story and I feel your pain, relief, joy and hope. I admire the courage it takes to be the voice of incest. I hold my head up high and speak the truth for those still suffering and those who didn't survive. My purpose in life has been defined by my suffering.
To give is to love.


Hi Mackenizie I would like to thank you for speaking out about your sexual abuse I was a victim to from the time I was six until I was seventeen. At the time I didnt realize it was wrong I just thought it was normal. An then when I diecided tio tell the truth when I found photos that were questional my family belived I thought at last they were going to side with me the victimI thought wrong and then I moved away . what Im trying to say is disbelief is a normal Family reaction to incest. that doesnt mean it didnt happen. your story mackenzie is like mine Victims of sexual abuse usually turn to drugs and alcohol as a way to deal with it. chris

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About Kate Shatzkin
Kate Shatzkin is the parenting and families content editor at The Baltimore Sun and, before that, was its family beat reporter. But her most challenging and rewarding job is being mother to Leah, 8, and Sam, 6.

In her 14 years at The Baltimore Sun, Kate also has covered nonprofit organizations, prisons and courts, and has written several investigative series. She was previously a Knight journalism fellow at Yale Law School and a reporter at the Seattle Times and at the Patriot-Ledger of Quincy, Mass. She lives in Baltimore with her family.

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