Father's Day Friday: A documentary on local stay-at-home dads
Today's Father's Day Friday guest, Michael Ivan Schwartz, isn't a dad himself. But he's gotten to know a group of Baltimore-area stay-at-home dads who gather on Wednesdays, and he's made a documentary about their lives that will premiere at 4 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 25 at the Creative Alliance at the Patterson.
That's a trailer from the movie, "Happy SAHD" (for stay-at-home dad) above. You can read more about the movie here.
Here's Michael:
"I’m not a father. But I did make a movie about dads--stay at home dads--SAHDs as they are sometimes known. I followed around a dozen of these men in the Baltimore area for a year.
"You may know a SAHD. Perhaps you’ve seen one at story time at the library. Or caught one pushing his child in a swing at the playground. More than likely you observed a SAHD and thought he was just a dad taking the day off.
"In my year of SAHD watching, I observed what I believe to be a pretty unique community of men. Men I admire. Men being dads…full-time. The first time I met up at one of the dads homes, a group of them were walking over to the local park and a middle-age, female neighbor looked baffled as a crew of 10 dads and 15 kids came out of the house next door. She asked, “What’s going on here?” And one of the dads explained they were a group of stay-at-home dads. She responded, 'I had no idea!'
"Another time, when a handful of dads were at a park, my friend Jeff and I were chatting away while his 2-year-old twin daughters wandered the playground. We were about 20 yards away, keeping an eye on the girls while discussing his life as a SAHD when a random woman went up to one of his daughters and asked her if she was OK.
"As I edited the stories of my SAHD friends into my documentary, I saw some common themes. These dads love taking care of their kids. And despite the funny looks, odd comments and even disdainful glares, they are happy being SAHDs. It takes a certain type of guy to live this way. As Chris, the founder of the Baltimore Dads group explains, 'They are less guarded and more secure about things because they’re willing to take a different role in society than is normal.'
"Child development experts agree that dads play a significant role in their kids lives…whether by their absence or their presence. And these dads are very present during their children's formative years. My hope is my movie will help give these dads their day in the sun. And perhaps Charm City Moms will give these guys some more respect…as they say, “Until you walk a mile in their shoes.” So, moms—trust me, these guys have walked a mile in yours."









Comments
I second your opinion on this matter. Personally I have a child that suffers from ADD, and this aspect of child development has left me puzzled on the options that I can take up. Sometimes I am just at my wit's end.
Posted by: konnie.teo | January 19, 2009 8:40 PM
Hi Kate. Your blog is great! I have young children, too. I refer to the Parent Coaching Institute and its Web site www.thepci.org as a valuable resource for our family, with its articles, Parent Appreciation Radio recordings, and parent coach referrals. The PCI supports BOTH moms and dads with their parenting challenges. Thought I would pass this PCI info along to you. Wishing you and your family all the best in 2009!
Sincerely,
Sharon
Posted by: Sharon | January 20, 2009 3:32 PM
Hello
My name is Scott Lancaster from www.diyfather.com a global online interactive forum for fathers. We have just written a book for new fathers from 0-12 months called "Call Me Dad" you can check it out at www.diyfather.com/callmedad
Thanks Scott
Posted by: Scott Lancaster | February 19, 2009 5:54 PM