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November 7, 2008

Father's Day Friday: What's in a name?

Multimedia editor Steve Sullivan is our Guest Dad today, with a rumination on how his daughter got her name.

Here's his post:

It was about this time last year when our middle child came home from school one day and asked me, "Why did you have to name me Flannery?"

It seems that her Latin teacher had asked the kids to look up the meanings of their names. Flannery discovered that Flannery translates to either "red hair" or "flat piece of metal", neither of which accurately describes her.

I explained that our choice of name for her had nothing to do with what she looks like. But there is a story behind how she became Flannery Bliss Sullivan.

It's been tradition for my wife, Marcy, and me to honor family members by using at least their initials as the basis of our children's names. Our son, Courtland Scott Sullivan, was named for my dad, Courtlan, and Marcy's grandmother, Sadie. Before Flannery was born, we decided to work with the F (for my mother, Frances) and B (for Marcy's grandpa, Ben). If the child had been born a boy, we had said the name would be Benjamin Franklin - although I don't know if we'd have actually gone through with it. The girl's name, however, was proving much more difficult to come up with.

Since we had already given Courtland my dad's name, I felt it would be too weird to name the girl after my mom. We tried many different variations, wanting to find something that was unique, but that didn't sound too bizarre. And we didn't want something with a hidden meaning attached to it, like "red hair" or "flat piece of metal".

As we approached the due date, I went alone to church one Sunday. As often happens when I'm in church, my mind wanders and I found myself playing with different combinations of F and B names. Suddenly, as if it had been thrown at me from the pulpit, the name Flannery jumped out of the context of the sermon. The lector was talking about a Flannery O'Connor short story called "Revelation." Flannery. Flannery? Hmmm?

Right on the heels of that revelation (sorry), another word shot out of the sermon - bliss. The lector was suddenly talking about bliss, which she defined as "the joy of Heaven." Bliss. Flannery Bliss?

Okay, sometimes I struggle with faith. Then there are moments like this, where I'm sitting there pondering something less than one of life's great mysteries, but which has me confounded nonetheless. And an answer - I think - is handed to me on a platter.

I returned home and prefaced what I was about to suggest to Marcy with, "I hope you won't think I'm crazy, but..." She accepted it with an open mind. It's hard to completely discount a name that very well may have been delivered from God himself.

Soon after, Flannery Bliss Sullivan was born. The name fit perfectly. As does the nickname which rolled off my tongue soon after seeing her - Peach. She's delightfully sweet.

As I explained to Flannery, in response to her question, don't worry too much about what some book says your name means. It's the person who defines the name, not the other way around.

Posted by Kate Shatzkin at 10:10 AM | | Comments (3)
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It's the person who defines the name, not the other way around.

True, indeed. Sometimes the person defines it forever. Which is how I escaped being named Adolph, after my grandfather.

We went with family names for our sons' middle names. Selectivity is the key here. We discovered a lot of Ottos and Oscars on my husband's side of the family, not to mention a Zadok! We have a photograph of Zadok, looking appropriately Biblical.

We have a daughter named Flannery as well - we are constantly being asked how we chose the name - like you the name chose us - Flannery is a unique name and Flannery O'Connor was an exceptional woman.

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About Hanah Cho
Hanah Cho joined The Baltimore Sun in 2003, just a few years out of college. While covering everything from education to workplace issues to financial services, she also got married and became a first-time mom in December 2009. Now, she’s trying to juggle work and life demands without losing her sanity.

She lives in Columbia with her husband and infant son.

Kate Shatzkin authored Charm City Moms until June 18, 2010.
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