That's a long article and I only read the first 6 pages. But I think it's worthwhile to point out that a couple doesn't need to change things unless they are unhappy with the way things are. I'm at home with my kids most of the week and I do the bulk of the cooking and the shopping and the cleaning and the childcare. But I do consider those things to be my job, while my H's job is to spend 40 hours a week at the office, earning the salary that we live on and the health benefits that we use. And I'm really really happy with that. Before we got married, we knew that we wanted one of us to stay home with our future children. It ended up being me, because my earning potential is less than his and the benefits are better with his job, and because I did enter a field dominated by women that is more flexible than his job. But having been a SAHM for almost 4 years now, returning to work 20 hours a week last winter, I don't want to work FT and I think my H would be stifled as an at home dad. It works for us and no one is complaining, so we leave it at that.

My H bathes our kids and feeds them and disciplines them and does the dirty work just as much as I do, and he spends a lot more than 2 hours a week with them. But I think we're lucky in that he works am 8-5 job with no OT and no weekends, so he's able to be around more.

I worked half-time for several years, then three-quarters time once both children were in school. I have to call my husband most nights to remind him to stop working and come home. Guess who did the bulk of the parenting in this house? But he was much more involved with our sons than his father was with him when he was growing up.

I do know a couple of families where the fathers are more involved than the mothers, but those are rare.