Give an expert your toughest question
Since nobody came up with a green question for the Monday Consult, lucky CKisMom gets an answer for the second week in a row. A specialist in children's worship will tackle this problem:
How do I get my six year old to behave at church? I send the two year old to the nursery, but I feel the six year old should be able sit through an hour-long mass (especially when he gets to go to the children's liturgy for part of the time). Instead, he cries and whines the whole time and says how much he hates church and doesn't want to go. Part of me feels like consistency is the key, but the other part of me just doesn't feel like dealing with this ongoing behavior week after week. Any help or advice?
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Asthma is particularly acute for my son (4) during the spring. Having had him on Singulair for the past two+ years, I am anxiously anticipating the results of the upcoming FDA analysis of Singulair and other leukotriene modifying meds after receiving this medwatch report from the FDA last month:
http://www.fda.gov/cder/drug/early_comm/montelukast.htm
I had heard of behavior changes, particularly suicidal ones, in teens who use certain antidepressants, but this note from the FDA did not specify any age groups in particular (and it is a completely different drug used for different purposes, obviously). Is there any indication that Singulair could cause mood changes in my son beyond the to-be-expected (and really, how much is to-be-expected anyway?) tantrums and meltdowns of his age?
Thanks!
Posted by: Annelies | April 26, 2008 9:07 PM
Well....for good behavior in church, I used the same bribe my father did and it has worked for 5 and 6 year old....3 rules - be quiet, no wiggling and pray to God...and then following church we will go to Dunkin Donuts.
Posted by: KQ Mom | April 27, 2008 6:49 AM
what do you do when one one of your daughter's playmates (both 28 months old) has a hitting problem? She's a bit more developed physically and tends to be rough and aggressive towards the other kids in play groups. Its been like this since they've been walking. The mother is a hands-on parent and is very very apologetic and always reprimands and gives time-outs, but it still persists. There has been talk of excluding her from play groups and outings. I and my wife think thats an overreaction, but then again, I don't like seeing my daughter getting bopped and shoved all the time either. What should we do?
Posted by: dave | April 29, 2008 11:05 AM
My daughter (almost 4) has a really hard time with transitions - coming or going really upsets her. It doesn't matter if it's a drop-off situation such as preschool or a situation where we are together. When we arrive, she gets clingy and cries or refuses to enter (we went to see friends on Friday and she stayed in the foyer for 10 minutes by herself). When we leave (the pool, friend's house, school), she withdraws, stomps her feet and often cries. I give her the countdown (10 minutes left, 5 minutes). I don't hesitate to start packing or grab my keys. I don't make a big deal out of it. Occasionally, I have to actually start walking to the door to get her to realize I'm outta there (which leaves me feeling guilty about her feeling like I would even consider leaving without her). We have a nice balance of being home and going out so I don't think it's from being overprogrammed. Thanks for any advice! Mary
Posted by: Edamommy | May 5, 2008 10:12 AM