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March 31, 2008

To circumcise or not...

There's an interesting story on the Los Angeles Times web site today about parents wrestling with the circumcision decision. It's interesting to read the statistics behind the debate: In 1965, the story says, 85 percent of boys born in the U.S. were circumcised. In 2005, slightly more than half were.  

How did you make this decision for your son/s? And if you're expecting a boy, is this a topic of debate in your house as birth approaches?

Posted by Kate Shatzkin at 10:51 AM | | Comments (9)
        

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We did the boy without much thought. That's just what people did. We felt so bad about it afterwards that had baby number two been a boy, we would not have done it. Thankfully, we had a girl and didn't have to make that decision.

our son was born in 1997 and we did not because my husband felt strongly that we should not, given that we did not have religious grounds to do so. Was it the right choice? I hope so.

I am so ambivalent about this issue, and while we are not finding out gender and just want a healthy baby, this topic alone is enough to make me slightly hope for a girl. While part of me feels as though it is a cop out, I do think this decision is one I am comfortable with daddy making. I am fine with whatever he decides...

We chose to do it for the sanitary and cleanliness aspect alone. I wasn't so much worried about him feeling like the odd man out later in life when he realized her was "different" in that department. I was worried about him being 8 years old, not letting Mom in the bathroom anymore at bath time and things not being washed properly leading to infection.....

My seven year old was circumcised without any thought while we were still in the hospital. There was a reason my doctor didn't feel comfortable performing the same task for my 3 year old. I have an appointment next Thursday with a urologist in hopes of having this procedure accomplished. His pediatrician said that he would actually by more comfortable after (right now he almost looks like too much stuff in a small baggy). I want him to be circumcized for cleaniness. Whatever his sexual preference will be, it will be safer and cleaner for him and his partners. Should he have a girlfriend, it would lessen her chances of HPV. I also agree with Christine about UTI's etc now.

This was the hardest decision I have had to face. I was horrified, after watching a YouTube video of the procedure. That day in the hospital, the doctor was clear about it being a personal choice, not a medical recommendation. My husband had some of my same concerns. But, he noted that he had no physical or psychological complications from his own circumcision. We also live in the midwest, which the statistics for circumcisions run higher than the coasts. (At least that is what the doctor said) So we opted for it, and that whole two hours the baby was gone, I cried and wondered if we were doing the right thing. I had my reservations, but we went ahead. Was it the wrong decision? I don't know, but we can't change it. Sometimes I feel guilty about that being his first genital experience.

It never even crossed our minds to consider doing it. Something completely unneccessary medically and certainly painful for our son was not given a second thought.

I didn't have it done on my bow 8 yr old son. Sure, he had one case of infection as a baby, but nothing too serious - just looked frightening! It did not lead to a UTI. Still, concerned about his inability to retract the foreskin we recently went to two urologists - the first, a Jew, thought it should be done, ASAP. The second, thought no way - it would be fine and just traumatic for him to have it done now. My feeling on this is the same as ear piercings for babies - it is something that alters their bodies, causes pain, and can't be undone (in most cases).... why do I want to make this decision for them, why not give them the power to make a choice when they are old enough to do so?

To be honest, I left the decision up to my husband who felt strongly that he wanted our boys circumcised. After reading all the research, I can completely understand why someone would choose not to do it. The research sems to indicate that the medical benefits of circumcision are potential, not guaranteed. There's actually a really intriguing debate about whether to circumcise or not at www.opposingviews.com/questions/should-boys-be-circumcised. Experts from both sides weigh in and make some really interesting points.

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About Kate Shatzkin
Kate Shatzkin is the parenting and families content editor at The Baltimore Sun and, before that, was its family beat reporter. But her most challenging and rewarding job is being mother to Leah, 8, and Sam, 6.

In her 14 years at The Baltimore Sun, Kate also has covered nonprofit organizations, prisons and courts, and has written several investigative series. She was previously a Knight journalism fellow at Yale Law School and a reporter at the Seattle Times and at the Patriot-Ledger of Quincy, Mass. She lives in Baltimore with her family.

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