An essay in the Chicago Tribune over the weekend caught my eye. It's by a psychologist who claims that "overindulged and overprotected kids are going to be the next psychiatric vogue."

This isn't a new idea, but it has been gaining traction in wider circles in the past few years. Books like last year's No: Why Kids -- of All Ages -- Need to Hear It, by David Walsh, and How Much Is Enough?: Everything You Need to Know to Steer Clear of Overindulgence and Raise Likeable, Responsible and Respectful Children -- From Toddlers to Teens, by Jean Illsley Clarke, Connie Dawson, and David Bredehoft, cover similar ground.

Yet when I had my first child almost 7 years ago, I remember being told to avoid saying the word "No" at all costs, and instead to phrase my directions in a positive way. To tell the kids what to do, not what not to do.

I still think in that context avoiding "No" can be good advice, but of course in the heat of the moment (such as when my son had an extended period of wanting to run into the street), I quickly abandoned the policy.

What are you saying "No" about to your kids these days? Do you feel like you're the only one saying it?