'The Bachelor' picks a winner?
I'll admit, I haven't been watching much of The Bachelor this season. It's not my favorite show to begin with, but I found it really unsettling that Jason would drag his son into this.
And on tonight's finale, when Ty began to play a bigger role on the show, meeting the final two, Melissa and Molly, it was even worse. At least the way it was edited, Ty met Melissa first and really hit it off with her. Then, later, when he first met Molly, he was standoffish and strange with her. And, hello, of course he was! Don't you think this has all got to be a little weird for an almost-4-year-old? It just makes me uncomfortable.
(Memo to whoever was editing the episode: I couldn't believe it when I saw "Jasons's Brother" under Jason's brother's name. And then it said Jasons's Mother" under his mom's name. HELLO! Inexcusable!)
At one point, Molly went on and on about how she had only shared 99 percent of herself with Jason, and she wanted to share 100 percent, so she gave him this "fairy tale book" that she had made for him. My husband (totally not paying attention), said, "Maybe that's the 1 percent she shouldn't have shared with him." Hee hee.
Then, Deanna (who I guess dumped him last season?) came back to mess with his head some more. She told him she wanted him back, and he basically said thanks for stopping by.
Jason interviewed several times about how he couldn't believe that he was in love with two women and he couldn't believe he was so hurt and about to hurt someone else, which made me wonder what he thought he had signed up for.
Molly was up first to find out the verdict. After the second time he told her she was amazing, I started to think she was dumped. And yep, she was. She said she didn't understand, and I was forced to say to the television: "He is dating someone else, too, and he likes her more. Sorry." As they walked back to the limo, she told him she thought he was making a huge mistake and that she was afraid he was going to end up hurt again. Then, separately, they cried, with Jason especially making a huge dramatic production out of it. I thought the jilted one in the limo was supposed to be the dramatic one. Molly just said, again, that she was shocked and he made a mistake.
As Melissa went to find out Jason's decision, she made some goofy faces at the host first, like she was 12. He told her that he was in love with her, and she freaked out. Then he proposed, and she said yes. How romantic this would all have been, if we didn't know that coming up at 10 p.m. was the most dramatic reunion show ever -- and that we would not believe what happened next. Not a happy ending?
We'll see. (And I will update this post during the reunion show with more details.)
Now, it's time for The Bachelor: After the Final Rose. Drama-drama. Host Chris Harrison says, "What you are about to witness is so dramatic, so emotionally difficult, out of respect for the parties involved, we're keeping this as intimate as possible." He means: no audience.
Jason comes out to talk to Chris, crying already. He says Melissa is amazing, but since it all ended, things have been different, and they know they aren't right for each other. He says they've spent a lot of time together in the six weeks since the proposal was filmed, and now the chemistry is different. Chris asks what Melissa knows, and Jason says she knows that things aren't the same for him. He goes on to say that he can't stop thinking about Molly, even though he has tried to, for everyone's sake. "As soon as she left, I felt like a piece of me was gone." "So you're telling me you're still in love with Molly?" Chris asks. Yep.
Jason tells Chris that he hasn't talked to Molly yet because he was trying to be true to Melissa. Jason says he first needs to talk with Melissa about everything -- to end their relationship. Then he wants to tell Molly how he's really feeling, "and ask her for a shot."
Jason says that Melissa knows what's in his heart, but they still need to talk. So she comes out for the breakup talk, and Chris is sitting there, which is a little awkward, isn't it? He tells her that during the holidays, their chemistry was changing. She says, she doesn't know what to say because she thought things were perfect. She tells him that as soon as he started having doubts, he pulled away instead of trying to work things out. She presses him to tell her what happened, what changed, and for him to be honest.
He tells her that he really did fall for both of them, and he really does still have feelings for Molly. Melissa asks if he has been talking to her, and he says no. She says he chose her, but he doesn't want to fight for her, he doesn't want to try. He says he wishes he could control what he was feeling, he would, but he can't, and she just looks disgusted. He says the worst thing in the world is to live your life with regrets. "You are such a bastard," Melissa mutters under her breath. He goes on to say that he regrets nothing between them. She asks why he put a ring on her finger, and that getting engaged was supposed to be a once-in-a-lifetime thing, and, "You took that from me. ... I am so mad at you." She gives back the ring. Then it's time for a TV timeout, as Chris says it's time to go to break.
After the break, Chris clarifies: So you're breaking this off with Melissa, and you are going to pursue Molly? He says yes. Chris leaves so they can say goodbye. Melissa yells at him about how he should know better since they have been through so much heartbreak, then tells him not to call her. She leaves.
In the limo, Melissa says he didn't want to fight for the relationship or to try, and that it hurts a lot. She says she is not angry, just hurt, that she put up the show of anger so he wouldn't see how much he'd hurt her. She says she always thought she would be a good wife, but she guesses something is wrong with her because she always ends up "on this end" of things at the end of the relationship. She does say she doesn't have any regrets because she knows someday she will understand why this all happened.
When Chris comes back, Jason tells him he never lied to Melissa. Next up: Molly!
After the break, Chris brings out Molly by herself. She's forced to watch the footage of their relationship and breakup. After that, Chris asks if she still has feelings, and she says she thinks so -- that it's weird because he is all over the media and on TV every Monday night. Molly says that the first thing she wants to know is when did he know he liked Melissa more because she needs closure and peace of mind. Chris asks if she ever wonders what if he changed his mind, and she says she wonders that every day. But she says she would need more answers from him if he did show up or call. Oh, don't worry, Molly. He'll be out after the break.
Jason comes out, and they hug. She says he seems nervous, and he says he is. Molly asks him her question from earlier, when did he know he was picking Melissa? He basically says he didn't know and that he was broken, and finally Chris gets him back on track. Jason tells her that he ended things with Melissa "because I haven't been able to stop thinking about you." Molly just looks confused now, and keeps looking at Chris like, "Is this for real?" He asks her for a shot, and she just looks befuddled.
She asks, "But what about Melissa?" Jason says what he did to her was terrible, but he doesn't want to live with regrets, and if he didn't ask her for another chance, he would always regret it. Chris asks if he is still in love with Molly, and he says, "Yeah."
She finally smiles, looks at Chris again and laughs. Chris decides they need a moment, so: TV timeout!
He tells her he was falling for her early on, and he still is. Molly says she is very confused and they still have a lot to talk about. But she admits that her feelings for him never went away. "I think we can see where things go," she says. "This is something I dreamt of, but never expected to hear. ... To hear you say this, I'm so excited about it. There is a piece of me that's confused. I'm blown away right now. There's bigger discussions we need to have. ... I would be lying if I didn't say I was glad this is happening right now."
Jason tells her she is the right person for him, and then the kiss. Bleh.
Jason tells Chris that what's important is that they are following their hearts. That's nice, dude, but what are you going to tell your kid??? Yuck.
Chris wishes them the very best. I kind of don't think a lot of folks agree with him right now. Especially not Melissa.
Categories: Bachelor/Bachelorette



Comments
Jason is a hot mess.
Posted by: lore | March 3, 2009 12:47 AM
I think it was pretty awkward for him to break up with her on the show like that. I almost wonder if Jason contacted them beforehand and said "I'm going to break up with her before the 'After the final rose' show" and they told him to wait and do it on the show because it would be more dramatic that way? Also, it seemed like whenever one of the women asked him a tough question he never really answered it, he would just kind of skirt around their question, and then Chris would bail him out with a question or a commercial break. Man up and answer the questions.
Posted by: Chris in KS | March 3, 2009 7:55 AM
The only thing the ABC cares about is the rating!!!
Thank God the DVR is invented! Too bad I did not copy the last hour of the show, but your story said it all. Jason is a pure drama queen.
It is a very high risk to find a love on the show.
Posted by: Greg | March 3, 2009 10:59 AM
I have been watching this show for a very long time and i love it.. unfortunately this season has really disgusted me. I realize that Jason should follow his heart but why in the world would he crush melissa's heart on national tv. NOT THE PLACE! on melissa's date to meet his parents Jason's brothers told her that they were tired of seeing his brothers heart break over an over by girls.. well lets rewind: what did he do to melissa? It was embarrassing to Melissa and most of all he did just what Deanna did but to another extreme. If you cared about Melissa's feelings at all you would have taken care of that in a private place. To sum it all up, i am NOT happy with the Bachelor right now.. Oh and what did Jason have to say to Tye about it?.. Life is tough and yes i realize that if he didnt love Melissa then it would not have worked out but why would he propose to her and tell her he could never live without her. Well thats about it.. i hope you all enjoy my comment,,
Posted by: valeri stewart | March 3, 2009 11:21 AM
I think we need to stop watching Bachelor. I just watched the last two episodes and it confirmed that it is pure Soap, plain and simple ! Reality is different once you are away from your exotic locations..I think people should just boycott this show.
Posted by: sara | March 3, 2009 11:33 AM
Jason may be attractive on the outside (altho I don't see it), but inside he is complex and unconscionable. With each passing week, it became more apparent that Jason was shallow and inarticulate. Everything was "amazing" to him. He repeated himself constantly, never saying anything truly new or insightful. He constantly reiterated how he was "falling in love with two people at the same time" and leaves me to wonder if he understands what love really is all about.
I would have liked to know why he got divorced from his ex-wife. I'm betting she dumped him. We now know that there is an even more brutal way to end a relationship than by texting or e-mail: do it on The Bachelor. He's a real jerk. Even if ABC prompted him to do this final episode for the ratings, he should have been man enough to say no thanks. Melissa was a sweetheart and I hope she realizes she's better off without him.
Posted by: Silvia | March 3, 2009 12:01 PM
WOW!!! What a great episode, well not for the dumpee, but for everyone else it was great!. I am sure she will get her own show next year. She deserves it.
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Posted by: Dave | March 3, 2009 12:18 PM
I am so glad that he is no longer with Melissa...
Melissa, the strong, the beautiful, the one with a - dare I say it - PERSONALITY...
Melissa, you will find your knight in shining armour - a REAL man!
Molly - He did it to her, he'll do it to you, I wouldn't quite do a dance if joy just yet...
Jason has everything - except the two things that make him a man....
Why would anyone want HIM???
Chris
Posted by: Christina | March 3, 2009 1:37 PM
Never watched the show, but have senn clips of it on Style's 'The Dish'.
Why does this show keep going and going, and the good stuff like 'Dirty Sexy Money', 'Pushing Daisies', and 'Life on Mars' gets canceled?
Posted by: Bill | March 3, 2009 2:43 PM
All I just want to know is why he ended things the way he did. The fans were in such support of him because of what Deanna did to him the he turns around and practically does the same thing to these two girls where is is fair at.
Posted by: D | March 3, 2009 3:40 PM
I am a frequent visitor to your website and always come to it for the latest and juiciest info regarding my favorite celebrities, tv shows, etc. It is no surprise I am a huge fan of watching the many seasons of the Bachelor and this seasons well I was floored at the outcome. So after much searching for information today on the web I came across Jason Mesnick's myspace page and low and behold in the comments area were actual emails that had been hacked and exchanged between Jason & Melissa after the taping of " after the final rose " and I was shocked! I wanted to send you this so that you could post it up on your site to share with otehr fans like me who always want to know more after the shows air! Here is a link to the site I found that posted up the emails! Enjoy!!! And keep up the good work on your site, I come everyday!
http://tinyurl.com/TheBachelorDramaContinues
Posted by: miss nyc 1981 | March 3, 2009 3:58 PM
Ha! Jason is a total loser and that whole After the Rose thing seemed insanely fake.
Did y'all see Jason on Jimmy Kimmel? He seemed really flippant about the whole thing if you ask me: http://squareeyes.blinkx.com/?p=403
Posted by: Kat | March 3, 2009 5:53 PM
Ha! Jason is a total loser
comments like this imply that other bachelors who pick their wives on a television show are somehow noble. they are all total losers.
Posted by: Wally | March 4, 2009 12:48 PM